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yami
8年前
Rainbow Flags & the Queer Cat
#veryinspiring##veryinspiring#creditstotheowner #metromanilapride
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Sofia： I always carry a rainbow flag. [/001]
ennie
8年前
#veryinspiring#BUSY DAY!!!!.. 😯😯😯😂😂😢😢😢😢
" bYe For Now" Ladies. 😂😘🙋👭✌👍
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Yang
9年前
#veryinspiring##veryinspiring#For months, I had been debating whether I was happy in my relationship. I wasn’t allowing myself to truly see the reality of the situation that we needed to break up but I knew something needed to change. And because I couldn’t accept the cold, hard reality of the situation, I found myself subtly trying to change the person into the person I needed her to be.
Unfortunately, as what happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together. Friends who see us out and about would think that we look good as a couple but that's just superficial, we allow them to see what we want them to see. I'm always with her but most of the time I didn't feel her presence. I knew that time that there was something wrong. So I took the initiative to communicate with her and find how we can work things out but some people aren't willing to open their ears and heart for communication. Most of the people would listen to respond that often leads to never ending arguments. Do you ever feel like you're in a middle of a battlefield exchanging ammunition until one person yields, sad part of this battle you were both preoccupied defending yourself you end up hurting your partner more. Both of you are wounded physically and broken emotionally from the fight.
I like to believe that only love & compassion, not words win arguments.
As the months passed, Every day, for a year, little by little love is lost.
I stayed with her. We both suffered.
She was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of my strong personality that grated on her. The more she focused on my worst, the more she saw of it, and the more she mirrored it back to me by offering her worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship, which made her choose me even less.
Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over a year.
I fought hard to fix what was broken but picking up the broken pieces only gave me painful cuts.
You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you.
It’s torture for everyone.
Of course, I wasn’t successful. You can’t change a person if they don’t want to change, nor should you. But breaking up with someone you care about is unbelievably difficult, and it took me months to finally come to terms with what I needed to do and then, it took me weeks to actually do it, because I need to be 100% sure that it’s the right decision before I can end things for good. The thought of making the wrong decision and causing both of us pain for no real reason made my gut twist, and I needed to be absolutely certain.
Indeed the hardest lessons are the most painful ones.
I gathered all my strength and courage to end everything. I remember posting this to my facebook timeline: an important lesson to remember when you're having a bad day, a bad month, or a shitty year. Things will change: you won't feel this way forever. And anyway, sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the ones your soul needs most. I believe you can't feel real joy unless you've felt heartache. You can't have a sense of victory unless you know what it means to fail. You can't know what it's like to feel holy until you know what it's like to feel really fucking evil. And you can't be birthed again until you've died.
By the time I had ended it, I had been grieving the inevitable end of my relationship, one step at a time, for months without being cognizant of the fact that we were truly, undeniably going to break up.
Breaking up was truly difficult, as were the resulting couple weeks after, but because of my relationship grieving process, the truly difficult part happens before the breakup. My brain must painstakingly analyze every angle before I can do anything, writing list after list, comparing pros and cons, battling it out. Crying myself to sleep every night, my stomach turning until I almost throw up, laying in bed with no energy to move for days. . . all the while feeling guilty that I may be stringing this person along because of my process, but being too afraid to put them through pain without knowing, in my heart of hearts, that it’s the right thing to do.
I knew that kind of relationship is like smoking, kills you bit by bit. So, I finally I chose myself, I quit the bad habit. I have to change the changeable, accept the unchangeable and remove myself from the unacceptable.
I survived heartbreak, losses, betrayal, trauma. Here I am still a warrior.
I still remember the exact words my brother said to me: "You deserve more, don't settle for anything less that will damage you". It felt like I woke up from a nightmare. I knew that all along. I know my worth, i'll never put up with BS for so long. I love myself more, and I deserve Unquestioning loyalty and absolute devotion.
After all of this, I’m able to bounce back quickly, because my body is all out of tears. I know I’ve made the right decision by letting this person go. And it feels as though a weight has been lifted off my chest, I didn't lose someone, I gained the people who truly cares for me and love me for who I truly am, and most especially I gained myself back. I know the end coming out of this intact and happier than before will justify the pain.
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Katrin： Wow...im speechless...this is a very inspiring story...
MC 😎
9年前
#veryinspiring##veryinspiring##veryinspiring##alone##veryinspiring##alone#
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
😂😅😎💪🏻👍🏻👌🏻
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sistaahau： Pogi[/019]
crowcrow27
9年前
AJ
9年前
#veryinspiring#waiting for this kind of girl! [/001][/004][/084][/084]
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keithy： hi. hahaha. ✌
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